It isn’t always easy to talk to the people you love about cancer
But your family and friends can offer meaningful, ongoing support.
At first, some people who’ve been diagnosed with head and neck cancer may want to
deal with the disease on their own. They may worry about others’ reactions, or the
right way to tell younger children. A family’s previous experiences with cancer
may also color the conversation.
There is no standard time or way to tell the people you care for about a head and
neck cancer diagnosis. Still, it’s important to start a dialogue and keep it open
for several reasons. Certain family members may play a role in managing treatment,
dealing with insurance companies, and talking to employers and others outside a
person with cancer’s immediate circle.
With children, it’s especially good to set the tone.
When talking to children about cancer, let them know how you are doing, what you
need, and how they can help. Children often take their cues from adults.
This is especially important given that children often overhear or guess at information
they’ve not been told directly.
If you let your younger family know how you’re feeling, they may offer you comfort
and support—and they may have an easier time dealing with your diagnosis and treatment
for themselves. Whatever happens, make sure your younger loved ones know how much
you love them, regardless of cancer.
Talking to the people you love can make your life easier.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from time to time. Often your family and friends
will be more than happy to lend a hand.
On a practical level, talking with a few trusted members of your family or friends
can help them stay in the loop about your treatment plans—what medications you’re
taking, and when you’re taking them. Let your loved ones know how to get in touch
with your healthcare team, in case of an emergency and so they can help pick things
up and help you manage treatment.
When you feel up to talking about it, try talking to your loved ones about how you’re
feeling, and how your treatment is affecting you. Talking about what’s going on
may help you feel better about it—and it may help your family, as well.
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